I saw this on my friend’s Facebook Feed. It was posted on FitFreaks wall
“How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
“You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”
“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her & that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader & a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you & your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, & her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream & she can sing & she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.”
So much yes in this.
I so often think that perhaps I should just stop trying to push through all of the emotional shit that I have bottled up and have, thank God, let over the years. Maybe I should just stop trying to flog it out and really process it all. Maybe the journey to finding peace is just to damn hard.
AND THIS is why I keep going.
I keep going, because there’s a little girl inside of me that needs to be told that she’s gorgeous. There’s a little girl or boy inside a lot of us. There are little girls all around us who need examples of women who carry themselves with confidence and grace. Exuding a harmony about themselves regardless of size, shape, half marathon times, weight gain, weight loss, status at work, how clean they can keep their house. We need women who shine their souls out to little girls through their actions, words and support of others which is uplifting and supportive.
So yes. That’s why the Exposed Movement is so damn important to me. And that’s why we as women need to harness that ability to impact and use it to not only learn how to shine more, but to help little girls find their ability to mobilize their beautiful souls.