Welcome to the 3 Part Series on Resiliency
Part 3: Toughness
1. the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
2. the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity.
Third of the three-part series – Toughness
This is not about building walls. This, for me, is about taking full ownership of your life and also learning how to say NO to things which no longer serve you.
So how do you embrace TOUGHNESS?
One: Learning to say NO
I often hear from my coaching clients “I just don’t know how to say no!”
That may be due to feelings of guilt, loneliness, not fully understanding what you’re saying yes and/or the need to be liked. Whatever the trigger is when we say YES instead of saying NO to things that we don’t actually want to do — we need to dig into that. There is a lot of lessons in the journey of unapologetically saying NO to things.
Where and/or what things can you say no to?
How would have firmer boundaries around your time, space and/or emotional energy impact your life?
If you have a habit of saying yes when you really want to say no, where do you think that is coming from?
Two: Take Full Responsibility for Your Life
One of the most powerful things that I ever did in my life, was choosing to take full responsibility for my life. In that, no matter what had or will happen to me — I DO — have the choice in how I show up in each situation. This doesn’t negate wrongdoings, crappy situations or hurt — but what it does do — is empower you to show up. To take control of how you are showing up, so that you can unearth the courage to meet your needs, draw boundaries and begin aligning with a resilient nature.
Thank you for joining me over the past 3 days. I hope that this discussion around resiliency has been thought-provoking for you.
What struck you? What was the thing that made you think that most?