‘Go gently, be gentle in this step in your life.’
It was one of the most transformative thing that I have done in my own recovery. In the midst of growing my business, in the middle of my eating disorder recovery, in the thick of walking away from many relationships — I kept telling myself to ‘go gently’.
The process of deep transformation is NOT easy. It is not always drenched in light. It is often dark, heavy and exhausting at different spots.
I remember a period about a year ago when I was consumed with intense rage. Like I would FLY off the handle, slam doors and scream. I am NOT at all proud of that season. But I had to do something profoundly different than what I normally did which was to shove it down with food. I had to ‘go gently.
If I didn’t…
I wouldn’t learn the lessons that I needed to learn.
I wouldn’t unearth what my soul was craving deep down.
I wouldn’t open the floodgates of true healing.
In our path of recovery, transformation, compassion — we have to have seasons of going gently.
The rhetoric so often presented to us is to push through. To find the solution quickly. To work through out issues and move on. And in certain seasons – these strategies are applicable. I also think that they can be dangerous, because they often are not letting the true issues rise up and through. We spend an extreme amount of time trying to ‘bottle neck’ our emotions because we don’t have the time, skills or emotional energy to deal with them.
So, go gently.
I had to step back with my rage. What was it really about? What did I want in the moments when I felt rage-filled? What was triggering it? How was I going to compassionately explore it when I was triggered?
How could I gently examine this area of my life?
I always say to my clients, ‘either you learn the lesson now, or you learn it later. it’s your choice.’
Perhaps there’s something that keeps coming up, and it’s time to be a bit more gentle.
Mish Pope is a women’s empowerment Life Coach, Public Speaker, and Entrepreneur. She is passionate about journeying
with women to unearth a life which feels aligned, radiant and unapologetic. She is the founder of the podcast ‘In Her Own Way’ where women from all walks of life discuss how to live life in their own way.
Mish is available for guest writing contributions, public speaking engagements & podcast interviews. She can be contacted online for these inquiries.
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