One of the original reasons that I got onto my second, of three, stint of weight loss was due to a visit to the zoo and the observation of parents with children who were fat. Married couples, who perhaps were once ‘normal’ and/or fit who had let themselves go. Why is this?
- We have someone now, so there’s no need to worry about what I look like
- Eating out too much, because who really wants to have a night in with steamed veggies and bottled water?
- Laying in bed, sitting around, watching movies, cuddling..not much calorie burning going on there
- Already busy lives, with limited amount of time for exercise, is substitued with ‘couple time’ instead
Whatever the reason, it is important to recognise that relationships can potentially throw a different spin on many people’s lives…especially if they are dieting. It’s a hard balance to go to a restaurant, which I do, and ask for fresh fish steamed with veggies. Not only can you get weird glance for being high maintenance, but it COSTS a lot more to be healthy are restaurants. So, what ends up happening all too often, you have an ‘f’ it day, upon another, upon, another..then it’s Monday..so you can ‘start over again’. Isn’t that exciting??
Here is some interesting insight from a woman writing in the article Weight Gain in Relationships and the Art of Supporting a Dieting Wife or Girlfriend
But eating with you makes us fat.
Most single women aren’t starving themselves to make heads turn in a bar. They’re not starving themselves at all. They’re just taking the easy way out when it comes to meals.
When she does go out to eat, it tends to be with her girlfriends. Chowing down on that burger and fries while her friend who has to make sure she can squeeze into that tiny number at next week’s party is nibbling at a salad is sure to make her feel like a pig. So she orders the salad too.
Evening meals and weekend brunches are something she enjoys with you. She’s much more likely to prepare a full-course meal, partake of the meal you’ve prepared, or order takeout when there are two of you to feed.
Even though this article is geared towards men dating women. I think that the same can be true for men. Many times men will eat, just in a sweeping generalisation, more sporadic meals. Perhaps no brekky, some snack at work that a co-worker brought in because she knows that the men aren’t eating, lunch out, a couple of drinks and perhaps no dinner. However, if a woman comes along and starts making dinner, lets say and/or brekky..then these habits of meals previously ate (which are arguably unhealthy) are then sandwhiched in between full meals. Thus, adding to weight gain.
From the article ‘The HealthPerks of Marriage’
Married men were more likely to be overweight or obese. The problem was worst among middle-aged married men; three out of four men aged 45-64 were overweight or obese. The slimmest groups were men and women who had never married.
Married people do tend of fair better in most major categories of overall life enjoyment and even health. However, marriage packs on the pounds…especially as people get older.
No matter what, dating, marriage, relationships, etc. take work. They adjust our single schedules for the good and for the bad. It becomes the goal to find someone who A. supports our journey B. joins our journey with us. It’s not hard, and I think it’s incredibly important for each of us to be upfront. Even if you aren’t dating and/or dieting…if you are going to maintain a healthy lifestyle it’s important to be aware of the scale when adding someone to your life…cause lord knows that’s enough 😉 ¬M