7 Tips For Being An Effective Mentor
Throughout my time building my business, I have been lucky to have found fantastic mentors, life and business coaches who have helped me grow personally and professionally. They’ve changed the way I see myself and how I do business. Their advice and support has helped turn my business into a success in just over two years.
But I have to admit learning how to be a good mentor and coach can be tricky. It takes time and commitment. It took coaching with coaches to become more deeply into my aligned. This journey has helped me become a better mentor and coach for my team and my clients.
Today I want to give you my top 7 Tips for being an effective mentor to your team. I share these because I know what it’s like to think ‘crap how do I mentor people well?”. Further, I love helping and empowering female entrepreneurs.
Here are my 7 Tips:
- A good listener.
It’s a really common trap to fall into telling people what you think they need. But are you really hearing their story? It’s funny how often people will be waiting for the other person to finish talking and not actually listening to what they’re saying. Be ok with silence. If you find that you often talk over people, count to 10 on your fingers and give people space to process.
Are you open and welcoming? People need to feel comfortable telling you their fears and doubts. Be a positive force whom they can look up to. It’s okay to share your not-too-great experiences but, overall, they should feel uplifted after your meeting.
Do what you say you’ll do if you are going to offer additional support or materials. Further, be committed to holding space for client to friend to grow in their own way.
Be willing to have expectations for formal mentoring sessions with your clients. Let them know what you expect of them in regards to how they contact you, how they book, and how they need to be prepared.
- Willing to share.
You’re probably thinking “of course you need to share information!” You’d be surprised how many people are quite guarded with their treasure trove of knowledge. Ask before sharing by saying something like “would it be ok if I shared this with you?” This gives permission and builds trust in your mentoring relationship.
- Never assume.
Everyone brings their own stories, patterns, blocks and sense of self. We can never assume that we know the whole story or that people should ‘just get over it!’ Mentoring is dynamic and varied. As a mentor the dance that we dance is often between unearthing your client’s sense of self, skill development and helping them break through upper limits.
- Focus on Strengths.
This is my hottest tip, unearth their strengths. Ask them to write down the things they do well, with suspended judgement. Further as them what they are known for, what they are passionate about and why their friends/co-workers come to them for.It’s human nature to discount what we’re good at and avoid “talking ourselves up”. When we exalt and focus on strength we actually find that people do better, work harder and are more committed. I would also recommend to take the Gallup Strengths Finder 2.0 Test.
I would love to know what tip resonated with you most, please comment below and let me know.