This is a topic which is SO near and dear to my heart. I have such a long history with distorted body image, unhealthy relationships with food and hating the way that I look. When I look back on almost every single photo I can tell you what state I was in when I came to food/weight/body love. It’s scary, but it’s something that it releasing from me.
Here are my 7 tips, after years of dis-morphia and yo-yo cycles, which are helping me finding my true calm and peace with my body and spirit.
These tips are NOT ABOUT weight loss, diets, etc. These tips exemplify a LIFESTYLE and MIND REBOOT that have to be a daily focus. Only when we carve our time for ourselves, nourish our bodies, make our thoughts positive…are we actually able to CONNECT AND LOVE who we are.
1. Set aside time for yourself — it’s NOT a luxury
I have ALWAYS felt that alone time, exercise, meditation was luxury. ‘I don’t have time to do that!’ But this is what you need most. Even if its just FIVE minutes a day of intentional time with your thoughts–journaling, prayer, yoga, exercise, mediation…whatever it is…spend time on this.
2. Admit that you’re feeling off
This is huge for me. Looking back I should have seemed professional help quicker, but I always felt like ‘I wasn’t that bad’. I know sometimes it’s hard to admit that you need some assistance with helping your mind process your thoughts.
However, the power in the release of ‘waving the white flag’ has been and is profound for me. It has been with great release that I have been able to take the pressure cooker off of ‘trying to hold it together’.
3. Forgive yourself
The first part of any healing is forgiving yourself. I have found a DEEP help with this through prayer and yoga. The first time I went to Yin Yoga, I cried for over 1/2 of the class. The first couple of times I used the oil blend ‘Forgive’ I hated the smell of it; which is always an indication for me that I have emotional work to do around that blend. Releasing the chains and then using oils like Console and Peace to help those emotions truly release.
We hold so much anger and resentment in our souls for the things which we don’t think we’ve done right. We have to release and using aromatherapy has been such an incredible tool for me.
4. Anchor your daily practices
As with #1, the importance of creating ‘non-negotiable’ time and routines around this is absolutely crucial. I’m so bad at this, but find NOW that without these daily practices I literally fall apart.
What I love doing is anchoring my thoughts and practices with some sort of physical preparation (lightening a candle) or using essential oils (such as Balance, The Hope Blend, Wild Orange, Patchuuoli) to really centre my space. To anchor my thoughts with brain supportive emotionally grounding aromatherapy oils.
Being diligent with a routine and practices of daily self-care is absolutely essentials. One of my go to things at night now is to make sure that I wash my face every single night. Because it’s SO easy to hop into bed without actually nurturing our skin! It doesn’t take long, but the process of setting yourself forward with beautiful skin and a practice of intentional self-care is so important.
5. Fall back in love with food
It sounds so COUNTER intuitive, but I actually don’t really know what I love eating. It’s been a conscious journey for me over the past year to actually ask myself ‘do I LOVE that I’m eating?’
For so long I have eaten out of calorie restriction of binge-eating escape. I have made my meals at LARGE as possible with a little calories as possible. I steered away from the things I’ve loved and binged on thing which not only make my feel terrible, but are actually things I don’t really like outside of that bingeing mindset.
So it’s been a journey of listening to my body. Exploring new flavours and making some new discoveries. I have actually found this quite a hard process, because again I don’t make time for myself when it comes to making food. I have never really allowed myself the time to LOVE the process of making and eating, because I have found it laborious and tedious. I have told myself often that ‘I don’t have time to make healthy food’. That is a lie and that is goes back to #1 in this list.
6. Move your body & release your energy
I know it may sound a little cliche, but honestly moving my body has been SOOOO important to me. So often I need the kick of endorphins..even a 30 minute walk sets me up for positive everything in my day.
It doesn’t have to be flogging it out (unless you LOVE doing that..then do it)..it just has to be intentional movement that BRINGS YOU JOY.
Movement that BRINGS YOU JOY!
7. Re-focus your thoughts on gratitude
When we have a positive mindset, we can overcome most everything. In 2009 I started something called the ‘Exposed Movement’ because I needed to see the AMAZING-ness of my body. The worldwide joining of this moment blew me away. But it also highlighted the importance that all of us need to SHOW DEEP LOVE AND GRATITUDE towards ourselves, our thoughts and our bodies.
Our thoughts are actions. They drive how we feel, how we eat, how we interact and how we live.
It can be hard to shift out of the ‘doom and gloom’ tapes of being a victim. I get it. There’s a real comfort in the struggle. But it’s not where we’re meant to be forever.
So shift your focus. Create light and abundance and gratitude in your thoughts. Anchor them with aromatherapy and daily rituals.
What rituals or daily practices do you have to align yourself with body love & acceptance?
If you’d like to know more about the magic oils I have been using to help focus my self in gratitude, self-care, and healing from food addition click the image below!